Let’s face it. There’s no denying that Facebook is here to stay. With 1.86 billion monthly active users as of the end of 2016, there’s no doubt that most people are using it.
There are several things that people do on Facebook that just drive us all crazy. Here are 7 things that you should avoid doing.
I was scrolling through – absently and not really deep in thought about the posts I was reading when I came to the one that made me so mad.
It was just after Christmas and my mother had sent me her China. Aside from the fact that it is priceless and irreplaceable; it is stunningly beautiful. I have wanted to inherit it as long as I can remember. I was so proud to be the new owner that I had posted a picture on Facebook. I also wanted my mother to know how much I appreciated it.
And there it was. After my picture, my cousin had left a comment. “Where’s MY China?!”
I call this “Hijacking a post”. You have now shifted the focus for anyone who reads my post. Instead of thinking, “Wow, it really IS beautiful China.” People are afraid to get in the middle of a fight. They won’t “like” it; or make further comments. In fact, now they’re just going to keep on scrolling.
Other examples of “Hijacking” are when someone makes a comment that is completely off-topic. “You never call me. I don’t know why I even expect it anymore.” This kind of thing, again, makes people think they’ve stepped into a family feud and it will make everyone uncomfortable.
I recently had an idea for a section of my blog and decided to run it past my friends and family. I should mention that some of my “friends” are actually men who served with my father in the Army. I have found great comfort in getting to “know” my father through the memories of these men.
That particular day I had introduced my idea – lesson plans for busy teachers. A different cousin than the one above (she’s blocked now), commented that it was a great idea and it would also work for homeschooling. I hadn’t thought of that. But then one of my dad’s friends commented, “Already been done.”
Well, now I could either refute this argument – thereby starting a “discussion”; or I could just delete the comment. I chose the ladder. But I was so hurt. Sure, he was right; but when you’re looking for lesson plans; the more choices the better!
Now I’m not saying that you should never disagree with anyone on Facebook. However, you might need to provide more than a sentence fragment. Perhaps you could present the problem you see and then offer a solution.
Remember, Facebook posts are, like email, easy to misinterpret. Make sure what you’re posting will be read with the meaning you meant it to have.
Also, “Hijacking” isn’t always combative. Sometimes it’s just clueless. For example, my status says, “Had a blast playing with the dog at the park today.” And you comment, “Do you know if Amy is coming with us on Friday?” It’s not related to the post and should probably have been sent in a Private Message, or at least have been posted as a separate comment on my wall. It’s just strange. Don’t do that.
The next faux pas that I see is people who over-share. These are the people that end up getting “Unfollowed” because our news feed is all about them. Out of the last 10 posts on my wall, 8 have been from this person. Is it because they don’t know how to put more than one picture in their status? Is it because they “share” every post they read? No matter. It’s too much!
But, worse than the “too-many-posts” over-sharing…is the “too-much-information” over-sharing! You know the ones I mean. Things you really never wanted to know about someone suddenly popping up.
Along these same lines are the ones who post about the three things that used to be considered taboo in polite conversation: Politics, age, and religion. Ok, I think we’re all over the age thing. But politics and religion. Can we just not?
One small thing that I can’t stand, is when people don’t proof-read a post or a comment before sending it. Then, once it’s posted, they don’t (or don’t know how to) “edit” it. Sure, we all make mistakes. But, please learn how to correct them!
Inviting everyone on your friend list to everything. Have you ever gotten an invitation to an “adult” party from someone you barely know? I have. Awkward. I’m no prude, but come on. Please don’t invite every single person on your friend list. Have some discretion.
Last is the worst of all. Forwarding posts that you didn’t check the facts on. Remember the drunk person in a tub of ice, missing a kidney?! This is how “Urban Legends” get started. The most recent one that I’ve seen resurfacing is this one:
R.I.P. Justin Allen 23, Brett Linley 29, Matthew Weikert 29, Justus Bartett 27, Dave Santos 21, Jesse Reed 26, Matthew Johnson 21, Zachary Fisher 24, Brandon King 23, Christopher Goeke 23, and Sheldon Tate 27…. All are Marines who gave their lives this week for us ….for our freedom! There’s no media for them at all… not even a mention of their names. If you feel called to share, please copy and paste this post.R.I.P they should not go unnoticed, they paid the ultimate price for OUR freedom!!
“Young service Men, thank you for serving our country, thank you for giving all”!
God rest your sweet souls
But here you can read the real facts:
This happens time after time. A child is missing and someone forwards it; only to find out that the child was never missing, or was found months ago. A crime is committed and someone shares a post about it, only to find out that the crime happened years ago. Or, in this case, these men died 7 years ago and they WERE NOT all marines.
Check your facts. One great place is Snopes. But, at least google it. I entered “Justin Allen, 23, marine” into google and found the above-linked article. If something seems unbelievable, check it out. If you’re going to forward something, even if you think it IS believable, check the facts.